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New Years Hopes, Challenges & Choices 2017

What HOPES, CHANGES and CHOICES are you going to make this year?

It is another New Year and it is customary to make resolutions and commitments and look back on the past year.
We usually ask ourselves what we want to CHANGE this year and how are we going to get there. Did you manage to achieve what you set out to do in 2016? What did you celebrate and what can you improve upon this year?

I start thinking of what I want more of in my life. What possibilities can I envision?
What do I need to change in myself, my home or in my relationships. What do I want to learn, what do I want to do and what options & choices do I have. What are you hoping for in 2017?

I am feeling inspired by possibilities and thought you might want to join me in MAKING CHANGES.
Of course the BIG questions are:
WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE OF IN YOUR LIFE? WHAT DO YOU NEED GOING FORWARD TO BE HAPPY, HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIPS or BE MORE SUCCESSFUL AT WORK?

What is the “IT” you are wanting, dreaming or needing more of……..
and
If you had “IT” How would your life be different? and
What is stopping you from having “IT”
This is where I can help you:

define what CHANGES you want to implement
clarify what BLOCKS you need to get past
create a MAP to achieve your goal
support you in the PROCESS 

What needs a TRANSFORMATION in your life?
Your personal or professional LIFE, your HOME or your RELATIONSHIPS?

LIFE, LOVE, LIFESTYLE 
Are you living “on purpose”
Do you feel inspired everyday?
What challenges are you facing?
Do you feel what you do is meaningful?
Are your relationships full of love or full of conflict?
Do you feel fulfilled? Are you happy?
What choices do you have?
Do you feel afraid?
Do you feel in sync with who you are at your core?
I can help you discover what you want more of in your life, support you to create a life that will feel more meaningful, full of love, less stressful, healthier, happier and more successful.

I will help you clarify your goals, define how to get there with a step by step plan and coach and support you to achieve it. I will help you solve challenges, turn conflicts into opportunities and highlight new perspectives and possibilities.

DON’T MISS OUT ON THIS GREAT OPPORTUNITY TO DISCOVER WHAT CHANGES YOU NEED TO MAKE, TO HAVE MORE OF WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE
Let me know when you want to start your new life and book your Discovery Coaching Session
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Mheyah

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HAPPINESS PROJECT 101


Do you feel like you need a life makeover and don’t know where to start? Have you had some disappointments, losses, big changes, don’t know what to do? There are some missing pieces and you aren’t sure what they are or you just aren’t where you want to be in life yet? Having relationship issues, conflict, upsets, feeling disconnected or worse apathy has set in. You don’t feel like you know each other and feel all alone even though you are in a relationship.

Together, I will support, encourage and coach you through a JOURNEY OF DISCOVERY & TRANSFORMATION to wholeness & happiness. We will identify the necessary changes you need to move on to a life you envision for yourself, discover the missing pieces and learn new skills so you will be successful in all areas of your life personally and professionally. This program will help you feel happier, more at peace, have more loving relationships with less conflict and uncover your true heart’s calling and life purpose.

This is an EXCLUSIVE TRANSFORMATIVE COURSE for dedicated life changers. It is a hands on proactive coaching program that supports you to move from A to “WHEREVER YOU WANT” and includes, coaching with me one on one, your time and commitment, reading and homework until you are finished the course. We will not stop until you are where you want to be and have created the life you are envisioning for yourself.
TAKES APPROXIMATELY 6-10 WEEKS TO CREATE YOUR NEW LIFE

The program will help you CREATE an INSPIRED LIFE and I will support you to make your life an authentic expression of who you are from the INSIDE OUT.
This coaching course will guide you to get past what is holding you back from integrating all aspects of your magnificence into a life fully integrated with who you are at a core level.

“to live a conscious & inspired life one must use the wisdom of the heart & the power of the mind”
We will explore what you need to change to have a life full of more LOVE, HAPPINESS, FULFILLMENT, PURPOSE & BEAUTY.
We will unlock the keys to your fabulous delicious life.

Change can be so much easier with a coach, an advocate, a mentor, a champion.  I am committed to support, inspire, encourage and collaborate with you to create the life you want and I will help you leap into the life of your dreams.

Let me ask you:
Who are you being when facing life’s challenges?

Are you in touch with who you are and what you need?
Are you holding yourself back or seizing the opportunities?
Are you letting fear make your choices?
Are you able to communicate so you are heard and understood?
Are you living your best and most authentic self?
Are you feeling happy, fulfilled and successful?
Are your relationships healthy and full of love?
Are you living in integrity with your values?
Does your environment reflect who you are?
Does your lifestyle support your health and well being: emotionally, physically, spiritually?

How you answer these questions demonstrates your level of confidence, knowledge of yourself, your character and whether you have the right skills for a successful and happy life.  I will support you to create new empowering beliefs & behavior patterns that inspire confidence and move you toward your goals.
We will learn more about your values and how living in integrity with your values creates inner happiness and we will explore and eliminate self-destructive habits that are keeping you stuck.

I will teach you how to communicate authentically & effectively everywhere in your life so you feel confident and self assured in positive outcomes in all your relationships personally and professionally.
We will create a vision for your life and turn it into a reality so your life reflects who you are at your very core.

Please connect with me  to learn more.
Book your session below

or Register here for the course
DATE: AS SOON AS YOU ARE READY TO GET HAPPIER & CREATE A NEW LIFE
TIMES: YOUR CHOICE
WHERE: ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD, NORTH SHORE, VANCOUVER, YOUR OFFICE, IN PERSON, SKYPE, PHONE
EMAIL: mheyah@gmail.com

REGISTER FOR THE EXCLUSIVE HAPPINESS PROJECT 101 – $2999.00
OR 4 EQUAL PAYMENT PLANS OF $750 OVER 4 MONTHS.

 

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ARE YOU LIVING ON PURPOSE?

 

Are you living “on purpose”
Do you feel what you do is meaningful?
Do you feel fulfilled?
Do you feel in sync with who you are at your core?
Would you like to contribute more?
What is important to you?
Do you feel inspired everyday?

Do you sometimes wonder what you should do with your life? This is an important life question most of us ask ourselves at some point. The search for meaning is part of our human evolution. Do you ever ask yourself: What should I do with my life? What is my purpose in life? What am I passionate about? What inspires me? What would be meaningful?

I am a Conscious Living Lifestyle Consultant,Counsellor and Coach and I trust and know that the answers are within you. I am only here to help ask you the right questions and support you to discover the truth that is inside you so you can live your purposeful life.

The first step is learning more about you.
I know what it is like not to know what direction to go in. I went through a program long before I became a coach where at the end I came out with my “Purpose Statement” and it is what I live everyday. It is who I am and is my mission statement in life. I have been through much soul-searching, crisis and diversions and now have a fulfilling, purposeful and meaningful life because I am in alignment with my values, passions and skills. My life is now a complete reflection of who I am and who I was born to be and I want the same for you. What I teach and how I coach is entirely because of all of my life experiences and I want to share with you how you can live your own purposeful life.

This is entirely a journey of personal discovery, illuminating who you are born to be and what you are meant to contribute. It is not necessarily about doing a specific job but it is about living your most authentic self, integrating your core values, needs, passions & gifts. It really is about living your own mission statement everyday.

I can help you discover your purpose in life as we go through a process of discovering the answers to some important questions.
Answer the “Discovering your Life Purpose” questions and begin the journey of living your purpose.
Click here to sign up for a free “Discovering Your Purpose” questionnaire

My purpose is: I am a  lovable & trusting woman inspiring & collaborating with others to create conscious loving relationships through heart centred connection & communication
I created that purpose statement before I became a coach and counsellor and it personifies who I am at my very core. I live that everyday whether I am working or not. It is just who I am. Thank you Choices

Love Mheyah 

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SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS START WITH YOU


Successful Communication Made Simple Series by Mheyah Bailey
Also published on Metro LivingZine

Over the next few weeks I want to share with you the importance of improving our communication. It all starts with learning more about ourselves rather than anything else, and I want to look at that in more detail with you so you can get a better idea of the steps it takes to be a stellar communicator.
Now the reason I believe this to be so important is that if we can all learn to express ourselves from a deeper understanding of what we want and need, and why we want and need it, then truly we will all experience less conflict & misunderstandings in our lives and a lot more cooperation, appreciation and loving harmony.
I believe that communication is an equal opportunity skill for all areas of our lives, whether personal or professional and is a skill that will improve our intimate relationships, families will be healthier, communities more collaborative and nations more united.
I do like to say that being a stellar Communicator is really all about lots of “C” words, Curiousity, Consciousness, Compassion, Connection, Collaboration, Control, Consideration, Care………..no I wasn’t thinking Chocolate, but having said that isn’t everyone more agreeable when eating chocolate? LOL
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So for today we are going to start with the “C” word Consciousness which really is only a trendy new age word for personal awareness so don’t let the word scare you off the good information.

So what does being CONSCIOUS mean?
CONSCIOUSNESS: (kon-shuhs-nis) NOUN: to understand the deeper meaning of what you think and feel
It is about really noticing and becoming aware of your own feelings, reactions and responses. Relationships are inside work and the people around us are only triggers for us to notice how we are feeling, what has made us feel that way, what values are being prodded, what needs are being compromised, what story are we telling ourselves about an event, comment or conversation.

Our reactions and feelings are entirely made up from what we think and the perspective we have told ourselves about it. I do love to say “don’t believe everything you think” and the reason is that what we think is shaped by our past experiences good and bad. If we don’t have a thought then we won’t have a feeling or reaction, and that feeling is most likely based on thoughts that are probably not unbiased thoughts, but a collection of conclusions we learned since childhood and through past hurts where we have learned to deny our needs, values and primary emotions.
For instance one person can hear a comment or view an event completely differently than you, based on your different experiences with the words, what happened, where they were said, how they were said, the context etc and both of you could easily draw up completely different conclusions, neither right or wrong, just different.
Your job is to notice what story, or tape you have running in the background that filters all the messages you get from others. Once you notice your thoughts and the FEELINGS that come up from the interaction you can get clearer on what those FEELINGS mean to you. I know I am using the “F” word but seriously our FEELINGS are our barometer for what we really need and value and when we are able to tune into them we have done the first part to learning how to communicate better with the purpose of living more authentically & truthfully with ourselves and others. The impact of being able to do this is you will be able to live your life more in line with your real needs and values not from the unconscious drivers from the past.

The intention of the consciousness exercise is to then be able to express how you feel to another person in a calm and clear way, which in turn builds connection, trust and a greater understanding between you, BUT that is for another lesson, so for now as we explore all aspects of communication I would like to invite you to NOTICE what you FEEL when something or someone is “triggering” you and what thoughts or story came up before you had a reaction. Work backwords. Do your best to just be aware of yourself and we will talk about how to share it with others later on in the series.

To learn more about emotions and feelings here is an excellent article to help you CLICK HERE

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Compassion, Conflict & Courage


Compassion is the antidote to all suffering
Also published on MetroLivingZine

Well this article has taken me a lifetime to write. It really amazes me as I said in an earlier article that as soon as I have an idea of what I am going to share with you it shows up in my life, and this time I don’t mean it showed up lightly, but showed up more like a bull in a china shop, so to speak.

I have used every skill in my toolbox to manage myself in hopes of influencing the situation towards a positive outcome and not create a train wreck.
In fact you might even say I really learned what it means to be “Fiercely Accountable”

It is one thing to learn cognitively what one values, believes and understands about the principles that are important to achieve success, or create happy relationships and a harmonious balanced life, but to actually apply those principles when faced with adversity or conflict is the real test, and does require some real ‘Radical Responsibility” At least it did on my part and also required some integrity to stay in the fire when I actually wanted to run away and hide.

I learned a lot in the past few weeks about myself and feel very humbled and full of gratitude. I don’t feel I would have any right to coach anyone if I had not experienced real human challenges and experienced first hand the huge benefits that can be achieved in life by integrating the 5 Communication Principles that come from connecting with ones own heart, integrity and authenticity. As humans our prime motivator is to love and be loved, and when that is threatened in any way it can seriously test our resolve to remain compassionate, curious and conscious and not dissolve into emotional chaos and fear.
We have been discussing over the past months the 5 Principles for Effective Communication that create successful relationships and we have been delving deeper into each principle and how to develop those abilities and the actions it takes to use them in ones life.
So far we have whittled away at Consciousness and are still learning about Compassion. This week I learned how to use every possible skill I have been taught and integrated into my life over the years and really understood one of the most important aspects of CompassionCompassion really is the antidote to all suffering
Compassion is a Verb

How so, you might ask? Well let me share how so………………
We all want to feel loved, liked, appreciated, valued by our partners, families, colleagues, however as humans we also experience conflict and upset at times.
It is part of the human condition after all, but it is how we manage those challenges that define us to ourselves and to others. My idea of being Radically Responsible means that for me, I show up with heart, authenticity, honesty, integrity, humility, grace and dignity. I do my best, fall down a lot and pick myself up to do my best another day.

This is a story about the process of reaching a compassionate place in the face of conflict. I think it is fair to say that most of our suffering can be linked to our:

  1. THINKING-We shouldn’t believe everything we think because our minds create stories about the meaning of events based on our own histories, learning, judgments, social values, assessments, upbringing, attachments and pre-conceived ideas that have become ingrained neural networks that are hardwired in our brains and are what causes our automatic responses. The interesting part about that is; what you believe is true, is not necessarily true. We create stories by filtering external events through our own experiences and we come up with a conclusion we believe to be true. If we believe that conclusion, whether it is positive or negative, that becomes our truth and is where a lot of our joy comes from, but also a lot of our suffering. We only create feelings based on what we think. Hear that again if you will
    “we only create feelings based on what we think”
    Your feelings are never wrong but your thinking might be less than optimal. Use your feelings like clues to discover what you are thinking. Pretend you are a detective on a hunt to solve the mystery of what you really think. I have learned over many years to let my feelings guide me to clarity about what I am really thinking and then I can assess if it is really accurate or if I am misguided in some way. The other part of our thinking that can get us in deep ‘do-do’ is believing that anything means anything about us, or in other words taking it personally. Nothing anyone says or does really means anything about you and is only their interpretation, through their own filters and life experiences.
    I love this quote “don’t believe everything you think” so am learning to really look at what I think so I can decide for myself if there is any truth in what is happening around me.
  1. FEAR. Fear shows up in conflict by upsetting our emotional balance, disturbing our peace of mind, causing us to go into fight or flight mode, our hearts to race, insecurities to show up, childhood wounds to activate, hearts to hurt, defenses and walls to go up. When this happens it is nearly impossible to respond rationally because our brains are telling us there is danger to our wellbeing and safety. Ultimately safety is one of nine of our most primal needs in life.
    When we feel hurt and upset, wounded and defensive, and are suffering, we are usually afraid of one thing. We are afraid of not being loveable, liked or accepted.
    Conflict usually shows up as criticism, blame, rejection, accusations, name-calling, projections and the FEAR that shows up is that we aren’t safe and that some of it might be true. This again comes down again to what we are thinking and what we believe.
    “If you have a sincere and open heart, you naturally feel self- worth and confidence, and there is no need to be fearful of others-Dalai Lama”

This is where my story starts, and it is important to know that usually, I am a happy, “wear my heart on my sleeve” kind of gal, however occasionally when faced with someone else’s upset randomly projected my way I can became quite unhinged, feel hurt, compassion flies out the door and it can be a while before I get around to some rational thinking and feel more grounded again. I can be “so not” Dalai Lama-ish and am human after all.

I sometimes still filter events through my own challenging experiences from childhood, can become easily shocked, wounded and scared out of my mind.
When I feel accused, judged or criticized I can usually remain grounded and not pulled off centre but sometimes, only sometimes, I am vulnerable to emotional invaders and from my childhood self I wonder if what they say is true and I almost believe it as the universal truth, and on and on my mind goes pulling all the evidence through the lens of all my life experiences from childhood with an abusive alcoholic parent, through my challenging teen years and my experiences with critical parents and partners and I can become completely unhinged me, take it personally and feel hurt. Our brains become hardwired to respond in the way we did when trauma first happens and is why it is so hard to manage ourselves once we are re-triggered. It is essentially the same neuro-wiring as PTSD.

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Luckily the unhinging only lasted for a day or so, because I did one really important thing, something I have never done before, something even after all the years of counseling training I still did not understand, after years of thinking about others first, always trying to resolve things immediately because I was afraid if I didn’t work things out my world would not be safe, I would lose love and connection with those that were important to me and that includes people personally and professionally.
I care about those in my life, I want people to like me and there in is where I sometimes get myself into trouble by being over-responsible and driven to have peace and harmony.
This time I knew I needed to do something radically different than I have done in the past, because this was some serious shit going on. This is not a story about what happened but is about how I managed in the midst of trauma and hope that you too will see the wisdom and benefit I am sharing with you when you feel triggered and upset. This is about the principles one needs to action for more peaceful loving relationships.

So instead of how I would normally manage things, for the first time I gave “myself the gift of compassion” and with giving myself compassion first I gave myself time to work it out for me and not try to fix. I think in that moment I realized that the words Radical Responsibility and Fierce Accountability (still really loving those phrases) really mean honouring ones own truth and experience, owning what is, being deeply honest with oneself and others, rather than denying what is real and compromising oneself in the misguided need to be liked and approved by anyone.

I also realized that not everyone is going to like me and when I gave myself compassion for being human I allowed myself some room to process, how I felt, what I was thinking and what was true for me. I didn’t rush from my ‘fear to fix’ which would not have helped the situation.
Compassion is something I always give away to others. I am a Coach, Counsellor and Consultant after all and compassion is the foundation for my connection with everyone, personally and professionally. Compassion is my religion but what I never understood, never integrated, was I needed to have compassion for myself as much as I do for others. I needed to liberally bathe myself in compassion so I could heal my wounds, create some rational thinking and be able to be my best most authentic heart centered self, so I am ‘able and willing’ to resolve differences in the future.

When I had time to sit with how I was feeling and discern what I was thinking I could then ask myself some good questions:

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  1. Was it true?
    I realized what others believe is what is true for them, based on their own perceptions and experiences, and their reaction or beliefs have nothing to do with me. I am only a catalyst for someone’s experience as they are for me, and so on that note I chose not to take anything personally or project my history on that moment.
    Really understanding that anyone’s opinion actually says more about them than me caused me be able to move slowly back into rational thought rather than emotional reactivity.
    I do sometimes wish I had the ability to process faster LOL but that is where some more compassion came in and I told myself I am only human and can only do the best I can at any given time. I can’t fight the truth and pretend I am not upset, I have to “be with” being upset. So hard but I do believe that is why counselors and coaches are so invaluable as support. Most people have a real challenge with ‘being with’ how they feel and it can be invaluable to have someone to support you in some of those challenging processes.
  1. Did I believe their version of me?
    I know cognitively that someone only has the power to hurt me if I believe what they say, and I came to the conclusion that I didn’t believe their version of me. They might, but I didn’t. When I realized that I could really only feel hurt and upset if I believed their version of me, and that I unequivocally did not agree with those assessments, I felt completely different and I returned to balance and contentment almost immediately.

Returning to our normal state of balance allows us to then be able to move into resolution with someone more effectively. For me it meant as I moved through a new level of Consciousness, I started again to feel Compassion, Curiousity, Courage and Commitment in the hope and intention of creating a more successful relationship going forward. It does take two people with the same intention and hope but that is my intention anyway.
“True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason. Therefore, a truly compassionate attitude towards others does not change even if they behave negatively-Dalai Lama”

I am learning to trust myself more and hope that some of what I have written over the past months will support you  to trust yourself, learn more about what it takes to Create Amazing Wonderful Relationships and help you in creating more Love, Happiness & Success in your life. Please read the other articles in the series from the links below if you are interested and do let me know what you think about my ideas, if you have tried implementing any of the principles or if you ever want to connect, ask questions or ask for support.
Next time we are going to look at how to be curious. Hint: it does NOT include the word Why.

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LIFESTYLE-how to be happy


And Now for Something Completely Different
Relationships are really inside work and you are responsible for your health and happiness………..
It can be a challenging concept to understand that relationships are inside work and I don’t mean just our love relationships but all relationships. It is our own responsibility to make ourselves happy, follow our own paths to passion, creativity and fulfillment and not blame others for our unhappiness. All our connections teach us about ourselves and need us to grow into our best selves to flourish, so for a change lets look at ourselves, and what we can do to make ourselves happier.

Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony – Thomas Merton.

Happiness and living an inspired and conscious life can only be achieved if there is balance between the physical BODY, spiritual SOUL and emotional MIND.

BE committed, DO what it takes, to HAVE what you want-Choices International

Ingredients for Living a Happy Healthy Life according to Ghandi
"Ghandi's 10 rules"

RECIPE for a HAPPY LIFE

Physical-BODY
Get plenty of exercise, movement and fresh air. Men need a minimum of 3 times a week and women need up to 5 times a week of regular exercise. New studies have said we are healthier if we get 450 minutes a week of exercise which equate to roughly and hour a day. That is where walking a dog could help J
The benefits of exercise are widely known including physical and mental health on many levels. Our bodies are meant to move and express themselves. Movement keeps our hearts healthy, our weight in balance, our bones strong and creates endorphins for happiness, so if you want to feel better all the way around then start moving, whatever way feels inspiring to you.  If you can’t manage to stay committed and need help, hire a coach, a trainer, get an exercise buddy or figure out what is stopping you. Exercise decreases depression, improves sleep, reduces stress and elevates self-esteem while building strong bodies, bones and strengthens immunity. So get out and Swim, Ski, Run, Yoga, Pilates, Dance, Cycle, Run, Walk, Hike………Doesn’t matter what it is “just do it” as the saying goes. Thank you Nike.

Eat healthier. Buy quality whole foods, cook responsibly for heart health and nourishment and then balance your caloric intake with your exercise. Don’t eat junk or processed food. Eat at regular intervals to maintain a healthy glycemic index and eat 3 -4 small meals a day over eating one large one only at night and don’t eat late at night. You are what you eat, or so the saying goes.

Drink water
-5-8 glasses a day depending on your weight. Being dehydrated creates stress on the body so that your body does not run efficiently, builds up toxins, compromises digestion and creates fatigue.

Get sufficient rest
. We are a sleep-deprived culture. About eight hours of sleep is the minimum for the body to repair itself. You may personally need more or less, as sleep requirements vary between people but we do need adequate sleep to achieve our fullest potential. Don’t drink caffeine before bed, eat heavy foods or engage in mentally stimulating activity. Let your brain calm down and keep the lighting low for an hour before sleep and sweet dreams.

Find time to relax
. Just lie down, think positive thoughts, meditate or take up a relaxing hobby, socialize with people you love.

Do something creative.  
Pick a hobby or recreation that you enjoy as it will balance out daily stress. This is one of the most important aspects to happiness in my mind and is also one of the most important aspects for healthy relationships. It is vitally important to continue or find your creative centre for your relationships to thrive. When each person in any couple feels fulfilled creatively it will keep your relationship sparkling with enthusiasm and inspiration too.

Live somewhere that you love to come home to.
Create your SPECIAL SPACES
Surround yourself with beauty. 
At least what you consider to be beautiful

Emotional-MIND

Plan out your day
 and set goals. Remain flexible and try different approaches to your goals. Remember, sometimes life goes differently than you planned and you may not have time for everything. Just be productive in the time you have and do your best to not stress if you don’t accomplish everything just the way you planned. Perspective and positivity is important to ones well-being and sense of self-esteem. Formula for goal setting
S.M.A.R.T. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Timely

Find and develop your gifts and talents
. Go out and try activities to find what you are good at and what you love and feel passionate about. We are all good at something

Keep a diary or a journal.
 This would be a good place to write things out, talk about your thoughts and feelings. Process life as it happens. It will give you a memoir to share when you are older.

Read
. Try classics such as Shakespeare, Jane Austen, Montaigne, Proust, or Tolstoy. If you are not fond of those, try the newspaper, a fantasy novel, history, personal growth, bibliography, or mystery. There’s something for everyone- check out your local library or a bookstore. I love bookstores. So many books, so little time.

Think responsibly-
You are what you think, whether you believe you can or you can’t, it is the truth. See more about THINKING

Learn something new every day-
Whenever we learn something new, including new attitudes, perspectives, or behaviors, we are changing the physical structure of the brain.

Education. 
Be independent and self-supporting. Educate yourself, master the skills necessary for your advancement and ability to contribute. You will not be dependent upon anyone else and safety and security is a fundamental human need.

Appreciation makes you Happy.
 Money is not that important. Fulfillment and Purpose are the most important qualities to create happiness Remember rich people are no happier than average people. After ones basic needs are met people that have more money are not any happier than those without a lot of money.

Play, Laugh & then Laugh and Play some more
You can learn more about a man in an hour of play than in a year of conversation. It is essential to ones soul and physical well-being to laugh, play and be a kid again. Never lose your inner child.

"joy and happiness"
Communicate effectively-see all about communication and the importance of effective communication on your happinessCommunication 

Listen 
to others. There is difference between just hearing the words and actually paying attention, listening and understanding them.

Compassion is an essential ingredient to connecting with others and living a heart centered life.

Process-
Be with yourself and learn what your feelings are telling you. Let them inform you of the deeper meanings.  Before you react in anger understand that anger is only a secondary emotion and that the feelings underneath that inform us of needs and values that are being compromised. If we do not look within, we will go without. The wholeness of ourselves does not depend on our personalities but depends entirely on the awareness of our inner feelings.

Consciousness-“Don’t believe everything you think”
 but do know that to live consciously means using the wisdom of the heart and the power of the mind. Seek out like minded individuals, go to counselling, get a coach, have a growth buddy, support group, join groups, learn. It is our human journey to grow, heal and change.

Responsibility-
be “respons-able” means be responsible for how you behave, how you react, are you choosing fear or love, are you bullying anyone or not asking for what you need and want, where are you not showing up, giving up, acting angry, hiding in confusion, not looking after yourself, abusing………,

Authenticity-Means to be genuine and honest about who you are in this world. It is way less stressful to be oneself at all times. “If you aren’t going to be you, who is?” Sometimes to be ourselves requires courage as we may face judgment or criticism but to live an authentic life is surely something to strive for as it is the foundation for purpose, happiness, love, fulfillment and success.

Purpose– Your purpose is who you were born to be and how you live every dayFind your purpose and everything else will fall into place. See Purpose…..

Career-
To be happy, ones job has to be one you love. “Love it or Leave it” You spend more time at your job than anywhere else, so make sure it feels purposeful and fulfilling and then you will be more successful and happy. One of the most important decisions you can make that will define your happiness is your career choice.

Contribution 
Do good deeds for other people, share your gifts and expertise for the betterment of others

Connection-
Connect with others, people you love and enjoy being around. Humans are a social animal and connection is an important aspect of our well-being. The second most important decision you make that impacts your happiness is choosing who to love and who will be your mate and partner.

Spiritual-SOUL

Meditate-
Meditation changes how your brain is wired and helps to reduce stress, increase awareness, lowers blood pressure and reduces anxiety and depression.

Commune
 with nature. Get outside, get fresh air, get outside with life and be part of nature. To do so is grounding and relieves stress.

Have Faith, Believe, Trust 
If you are religious, study, spend time with like minded people and spend time with others who challenge your beliefs. Learn what faith means to you and trust in something.

Add the key ingredient, LOVE and you have a recipe for a happy healthy life, personally, professionally, globally. That means to love yourself and others equally without judgment or fear. Love and Fear cannot coexist. It is a choice we make everyday. Ultimately, at our essence we are LOVE. We are not fear, or anger, or greed, or competition. As we continue to awaken, may we continue to grow in LOVE and exercise all that we are, in how we relate to ourselves, others and all living and non-living things on this planet. May we always focus on the solutions, rather than the problems, and truly be the change we wish to see.

love

Love Mheyah 

If you would like to connect. Book your discovery session below

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Happy-ness Reading List

Dark Night of the Soul by Thomas Moore
The Buddhas Brain by Rick Hansen
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
The 7 Tools for Beating Addictions by Stanton Peele
Women Food and God by Geneen Roth
Healing the Hardware of the Soul by Daniel Amen
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford
Evolve your Brain by Joe Dispenza
The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo
The Power of One by Bryce Courtnay

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I have presents for you….

ANNOUNCING THE NEW CONNECTION POINT PROMISE

At CONNECTION POINT– We promise CLARITY,
“AHA” MOMENTS & 
TRANSFORMATION.

My “soul” purpose is to support you to create authentic change 
through personal awareness, communication training & inspirational coaching.
MHEYAH BAILEY-CCO-CHIEF CONNECTION OFFICER

HAPPY SPRING EVERYONE
I have been thinking of all the amazing people in my life like you and it is a again my favourite time of year when it feels like renewal and time for new things to happen and I want to say HI.

I have been inspired to re-create CONNECTION POINT to better reflect what I do and what I offer you so please check out my website as I am so excited to share it with you so you can learn more of who I am and how I can support you. It is still in the process of evolving so please bear with me as it unfolds.
It is my “soul” purpose to help you create authentic change so you can have a life with more of what you want and less of what isn’t working. Connecting with all of you, as well as my friends and family and being of service is what makes me get up in the morning, my reason for being here on earth, the purpose of my heart and my global contribution to change the world one conversation at a time.  

I want to support you to live an Inspired Life full of more
LOVE, SUCCESS, HAPPINESS, FULFILLMENT, PURPOSE & BEAUTY. 
I can promise that spending time with me will GIVE you CLARITY, “AHA” MOMENTS & TRANSFORMATION through developing more personal awareness of your needs and values, teaching you to excel at communication and help you to create goals that will move you toward your desired future.
I am offering some STELLAR SPRING SPECIALS for everyone who wants to discover something new about themselves, wants to figure out their LIFE PURPOSE, needs help with their COMMUNICATION, is feeling CURIOUS and WONDERING what’s next, is thinking how can I change my life so I can feel HAPPIER, have less conflict and enjoy more harmonious relationships, is seriously thinking something needs to change here……………..
 
The SPRING SPECIALS are:

1. SIGN UP BELOW  for some FREE COACHING
What is the burning question you want an answer to?
CALL ME or TEXT ME at  07986 201914
or EMAIL ME at mheyah@gmail.com and we can talk about it.

2. SIGN UP BELOW if  COMMUNICATION is what you want to learn more about?and I will send you some FREE COMMUNICATION INFORMATION and regular newsletters about how to improve your communication skills.
3. SIGN UP BELOW Call, Text, Email or Join me on Twitter or Facebook and let me know what you want to change in your life and I will send you a Questionnaire to help you fine tune what you want and need.
Please share this with anyone you think would be interested in changing their life. Looking forward to connecting with you

love Mheyah

LOVE IS OUR SOUL PURPOSE”

Collaborating for Conscious Change Personally, Professionally, Globally

-Discover your Values
-Define your Purpose
-Create a Vision
-Set Goals and Support Action

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want-Lao Tzu

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10 GREAT REASONS TO IMPROVE YOUR COMMUNICATION

 

10 Reason to Improve Communication

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MIND MAP

MIND MAP
blue brain

MIND MAP YOUR WAY TO THE Life of Your DREAMS 
The starting point is knowing what you want and giving your mind a map to take you in the new direction towards the life you want……… Tap into your Unconscious Mind Power and Put Your Success on Autopilot!
MIND MAPPING is the process of programming your Unconscious Mind with whatever goals, dreams or inspired outcomes you want. Once your Unconscious Mind is programmed, realizing your dreams can become effortless.
You can use your new MIND MAP to create anything you want – enhanced relationships, financial stability, peace of mind, business success, better health, lasting happiness, more energy, etc.
A MIND MAP will allow you to: • Program your mind for more Success, Love & Happiness • Create the Life you want Unconsciously • Make Achieving Your Goals an Effortless Experience • Put Your Success on Auto-Pilot • Access the power of your Unconscious Mind • Experience Optimal Whole-Brain Functioning • Become more Relaxed, Stress-Free, Balanced & Healthy • And so much more! •

MIND MAP & MANIFEST Your Dream Life!
R
EINVENT, REDESIGN, RECREATE a NEW SELF and a NEW LIFE

Your Unconscious Mind is the part of your mind that runs your life in the background. It behaves much like a giant super computer and is programmed much like a computer. All your beliefs, thoughts and behaviors are a residual of the programs running in your unconscious mind. The self-image and beliefs we’ve been programmed with over the years control and run our lives. They get stored and become permanent structures in how we habitually think, believe, feel and act. In fact, according to neuroscientists we are 95% unconscious and 5% conscious. As a result, we mainly live our entire lives on autopilot.

Unfortunately, most of us have so many stored negative programs and hard-wired patterns that limit and sabotage our success. Many of our thoughts and beliefs even contradict one another, canceling out any potential benefits. What’s more, there are so many programs running our lives that it becomes difficult for new empowering programs to form and take root. We all know how difficult it can be to change a habit or an ingrained belief. Think of your unconscious mind as being like a computer. It stands ready, willing and able to carry out your every instruction. It is continuously scanning your thoughts, feelings, words and actions – all of which it interprets as commands that you have given it – and depending on which commands carry the most weight (the unconscious will always act on the dominant thoughts, words, feelings, actions (how strong the overriding feelings are will depend on your beliefs) The unconscious is like the faithful servant only serving the wishes of it’s master and since it treats you as the master of your thoughts, the master who carefully chooses wisely what they put their attention on…it has no choice but to act upon the instructions it has been given – even if those instructions are negative thoughts, feelings, beliefs and programs YOU DON’T WANT.
These programs define the limits of your success in all areas of your life.
We all have limiting beliefs, core tapes about our self worth, our brains are hard wired with negative beliefs that run our lives on a daily basis without us even being aware or conscious of them. Even people who we think ‘have it all’ can ultimately be deeply unhappy because of their low self-esteem and limited Mind Map. Putting Your Success on Autopilot Imprinting is the process of programming your Unconscious Mind with whatever goals, dreams or inspired outcomes you want. Once your Unconscious Mind is programmed, realizing your dreams can become effortless. You can use your new “Mind Map” to create anything you want – enhanced relationships, financial stability, peace of mind, business success, better health, lasting happiness, more energy, etc.

MInd map

In a MIND MAPPING session working together we will create a vision for your life that inspires you, lights you up and propels you forward in the direction you want to go in life. I will then personally lead you through the process of imprinting and reprogramming your Unconscious Mind by talking you into a deep relaxed state where your Conscious Mind relaxes and your Unconscious Mind (that’s your super computer) floats to the surface. Working together, we then IMPRINT your unconscious mind by directly giving it your desired outcomes and creating a new map for your mind to follow. The total session lasts for about 90 minutes. By directly imprinting it with your desired outcomes and goals of your choice your unconscious mind can then go to work directing and guiding you towards your end results. It really is like putting your goals on auto-pilot, a new map for your mind! You’ll also receive a recording of your session by MP3 that you can go back and listen to it over and over again, further imprinting your new success programs into your unconscious mind and enhancing their effect.
It is recommended that you listen to your MIND MAP once a day to get the best benefits. The MIND MAP session is specially designed to effortlessly take you into the state known as THETA. Theta is best known as the brain wave state of dreaming sleep, but it is also associated with a number of other beneficial states, including increased INSIGHTS, creativity, access to the PHOTOGRAPHIC MIND & increased memory abilities. The conscious mind is bypassed in a theta state, and in terms of making positive changes in beliefs or negative habit patterns, reprogramming and re-patterning takes place very quickly. You can probably see why putting yourself in this state will increase the level of your real world results!
WHOLE BRAIN FUNCTIONING
Modern brain research indicates that long-term deep relaxation does in fact balance the brain, creating a synchronicity between the two hemispheres. Many researchers have studied this phenomenon over the last 20 years. It has been discovered that electrical brain wave patterns of people in deep relaxation or meditation change to a single coherent pattern, indicating that both sides of the brain – ordinarily out of phase – were working together in a balanced, synchronized manner. While in the vast majority of people one hemisphere or the other is alternately dominant over the other, advanced minds seemed to develop the ability to use their whole brain and to live in a more balanced state characterized by brain synchronization and whole brain functioning.
MIND MAPPING therefore, helps stimulate the creation of new neural pathways between the right and left hemispheres of your brain, balancing your brain and leading you to this high-performance state scientists call “whole brain functioning”. Whole-brain functioning is associated with increased creativity, insight, learning ability, problem solving ability and what some people call vision! This type of brain function has been associated with geniuses—the Einsteins and Mozarts of the world and other creative, high-performance super achievers like Walt Disney, Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Aristotle Onassis etc.
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REINVENT, REDESIGN, RECREATE a NEW WAY OF THINKING-A NEW SELF-A NEW LIFE…
Once you begin consistently listening to your customized blueprint everyday, you’ll notice an increased level of belief in yourself and in the possibility of realizing your outcomes. When the time comes to take action in the real world, you’ll jump at the opportunities being presented to you because you will have done it so many times
before in your imagination. Research shows that your mind cannot tell the difference between a real and an imagined experience. This is the reason why MIND MAPPING
is such a powerful way to increase your chances of success. As you listen to it more and more, you’ll be further ingraining your new success programs deeper into your Unconscious Mind and amplifying their effect. The deeper they go in, the more you’ll attract the opportunities and take the necessary actions that move you towards your goals effortlessly At this stage you are reinventing, redesigning and recreating a new you and a new life! The combination of the deeper relaxation effect and the powerful personalized reprogramming of your internal blueprint is the most efficient way to ensure your personal, business and life success. It will allow you to: • Program your mind for Super Success • Create your Dream Life Unconsciously • Make Achieving Your Goals an Effortless Experience • Put Your Success on Auto-Pilot • Overcome Limiting Beliefs that have sabotaged your life • Access the power of your Unconscious Mind • Experience Whole-Brain Functioning • Upgrade Your Mindset • Increase Your Level Of Self-Belief • Redesign a New Life • Reinvent a New Empowering Self-Image • And so much more!

BONUS MATERIAL: You’ll also get a Follow Up Bonus Mind Map Coaching Call to help you move faster along the path to your dreams. This call will be packed with coaching, great information, tips and techniques to reinforce your Mind Map and to help you to continue to reinvent yourself and redesign your life going forward.

YES, Mheyah! I want to program myself for success! I want to start right away and receive my BLUEPRINTING session FOR ONLY $295

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Mind Mapping? Mind Mapping or Imprinting is the process of programming your Unconscious Mind with whatever outcomes you want. Once your Unconscious Mind is programmed, realizing that outcome becomes effortless. Once you have imprinted your goals on your unconscious mind, you automatically begin thinking the kinds of thoughts that attract the exact opportunities to accomplish your goal easily. This is when achieving goals becomes effortless.

                        MindMapping
ATTRACTION + ACTION = EFFORTLESS RESULTS


How do I use my MIND MAP?
Once you have your MP3 you can listen to it on any player you have (never listen to it while driving your car). Many people download it to their computer and you can then load your MIND MAP onto your mp3 player, iPod or IPhone or just play it from your computer’s media player. Make sure you are wearing headphones and press play. Make sure the recording is playing at a volume not too loud and not too soft, but just comfortable for you.
What preparation do I need to do prior to listening to my MIND MAP?
Firstly, become aware consciously of the goals that you want to create once more. Even though they’re on your blueprint already, it really sets things into motion and prepares both your conscious and unconscious mind to have a deeper experience. Have your Inspired Outcomes written on a sheet of paper or in a journal to remind you.
Secondly, make sure you will not be disturbed while you are listening to your MIND MAP. Turn off all phones (spouses and children)!
What is the best time of day to listen to it? I prefer listening in the morning, but any time of day will do. Mornings are good because you start your day on a high which can last all day. Also, I believe that you are less likely to fall asleep if you listen to your MIND MAP in the morning. I have used my MIND MAP during my lunch break as a great way to boost my energy for the afternoon. Find what works for you and make it a habitual part of your life.
I have more goals that I forgot to put into my MIND MAP, how do I include these? That’s great! I fully expect you to keep checking off your goals, just like a shopping list. Naturally, you will come up with new goals as you move further along your path. Just make sure that whatever goal you choose to create excites you, lights you up and turns you on. You can use the generic section in your MIND MAP where I invite you bring up onto the screen of your mind any new goals that you want to bring about. You can also use the bonus ‘Forest Meditation’ to insert one of your new inspired outcomes. Many people find that they ultimately outgrow their MIND MAP– in other words all of their goals have come about (often much faster than they expected).
If you want, you can then update and get a brand new blueprint.
What is the importance of relaxation? Relaxation allows your unconscious mind to float to the surface of your awareness, and your mind chatter to quiet down.
Research shows that this is the optimum state for imprinting the mind.
What do I do if I notice synchronicity related to my goal showing up in my life? Take INSPIRED ACTION immediately. Jump at those opportunities that are surrounded by meaningful coincidence. Trust your intuition and go for it! Anyone who has achieved success will tell you that they take lots of INSPIRED ACTION towards achieving their goals. Even the word ATTRACTION contains the word ACTION within it. If this were not the case, everybody would be rich and living their dream lives just by thinking it. If you are not taking ACTION towards achieving your dream life, NO amount of visualizing is going to get you there. The good news is that once you have used your MIND MAP to imprint your goals on your unconscious mind, you will be attracting the opportunities to take the inspired actions that move you towards your goals effortlessly. . What do the terms ‘Life’ or ‘The Universe’ refer to? The study of Quantum Physics has shown the existence of an energy field that holds all matter together. Everything in the universe is created from this energy. Some scientists are calling this force the Zero Point Field, the Quantum Hologram. I sometimes use the term ‘Life’ to represent this force because all of life is created from this force. There are many words for this force which some people call God, The Universe, Spirit, The Quantum Field, The Flow, The Force, Infinite Intelligence, and so on depending on each person’s belief system.
What if I fall asleep during listening to the recording? If you fall asleep while listening to your MIND MAP that’s OK. Your unconscious mind will still absorb your goals. Research shows, however, that best results come about when your mind is relaxed but alert and moving into a state of expanded awareness.
So, if you’re prone to falling asleep, it helps to sit up while listening.
You can also experiment with ‘acting out your goal’ while you are imagining it.
This way, there is no chance of you falling asleep! It is also a great way to convince your mind into believing that your imagined experience has actually happened.
What do I do if I miss a day? If you do miss out a day of listening to your MIND MAP, don’t panic. Just begin again the next day.
Good luck and have fun creating your dream life!

Love Mheyah 

If you would like to connect. Book your discovery session below

Please connect with me at
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or by email at mheyah@gmail.com
cell: +1-778-952-4797
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FEELINGS LIST

Feelings when your needs are satisfied

AFFECTIONATE
compassionate
friendly
loving
open hearted
sympathetic
tender
warmENGAGED
absorbed
alert
curious
engrossed
enchanted
entranced
fascinated
interested
intrigued
involved
spellbound
stimulatedHOPEFUL
expectant
encouraged
optimistic
CONFIDENT
empowered
open
proud
safe
secureEXCITED
amazed
animated
ardent
aroused
astonished
dazzled
eager
energetic
enthusiastic
giddy
invigorated
lively
passionate
surprised
vibrant
GRATEFUL
appreciative
moved
thankful
touchedINSPIRED
amazed
awed
wonderJOYFUL
amused
delighted
glad
happy
jubilant
pleased
tickledEXHILARATED
blissful
ecstatic
elated
enthralled
exuberant
radiant
rapturous
thrilled
PEACEFUL
calm
clear headed
comfortable
centered
content
equanimous
fulfilled
mellow
quiet
relaxed
relieved
satisfied
serene
still
tranquil
trustingREFRESHED
enlivened
rejuvenated
renewed
rested
restored
revived

Feelings when your needs are not satisfied

AFRAID
apprehensive
dread
foreboding
frightened
mistrustful
panicked
petrified
scared
suspicious
terrified
wary
worriedANNOYED
aggravated
dismayed
disgruntled
displeased
exasperated
frustrated
impatient
irritated
irkedANGRY
enraged
furious
incensed
indignant
irate
livid
outraged
resentfulAVERSION
animosity
appalled
contempt
disgusted
dislike
hate
horrified
hostile
repulsed
CONFUSED
ambivalent
baffled
bewildered
dazed
hesitant
lost
mystified
perplexed
puzzled
tornDISCONNECTED
alienated
aloof
apathetic
bored
cold
detached
distant
distracted
indifferent
numb
removed
uninterested
withdrawnDISQUIET
agitated
alarmed
discombobulated
disconcerted
disturbed
perturbed
rattled
restless
shocked
startled
surprised
troubled
turbulent
turmoil
uncomfortable
uneasy
unnerved
unsettled
upset
EMBARRASSED
ashamed
chagrined
flustered
guilty
mortified
self-consciousFATIGUE
beat
burnt out
depleted
exhausted
lethargic
listless
sleepy
tired
weary
worn outPAIN
agony
anguished
bereaved
devastated
grief
heartbroken
hurt
lonely
miserable
regretful
remorsefulSAD
depressed
dejected
despair
despondent
disappointed
discouraged
disheartened
forlorn
gloomy
heavy hearted
hopeless
melancholy
unhappy
wretched
TENSE
anxious
cranky
distressed
distraught
edgy
fidgety
frazzled
irritable
jittery
nervous
overwhelmed
restless
stressed outVULNERABLE
fragile
guarded
helpless
insecure
leery
reserved
sensitive
shakyYEARNING
envious
jealous
longing
nostalgic
pining
wistful

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