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Creating Awesome Relationships FREE Webinar


Start 2016 off with more LOVE, SUCCESS & HAPPINESS
Creating Awesome Relationships FREE Webinar

Looking for a way to ensure happy, healthy and fulfilling relationships?
We have a fantastic Webinar Sunday January 17th @ 11 AM PST so you can learn the most important principles and steps towards building happy successful relationships.

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After this webinar you will know how to STOP conflict, reduce stressful interactions, create connection with those you love and create successful relationships personally & professionally

We all seek loving, peaceful and successful relationships.

Whether it’s with our family, friends, coworkers, or our romantic relationships, we all expect love, respect, admiration, loyalty, and some level of nurturing.

But achieving that can be difficult sometimes
Regardless of where you are now Connection Point can give you the skills you need to ensure all of your relationships are healthy and full of mutual respect, love and harmony. This webinar will help you create:

  • Loving & harmonious relationships
  • Professional success
  • Personal happiness and contentment
  • Strengthened confidence in yourself
  • Understanding, love, and appreciation
  • Respect, passion, and deep friendship with your chosen partner

We all want to be loved, but sometimes we need a little help learning how to go about achieving that level of affection out of relationships in our life.

If you find yourself nodding and thinking “This is what I’ve been missing!” then join Mheyah at the Connection Point webinar and learn how you can start building healthy relationships today! Happy business people discussing in meeting at office

To watch the webinar CLICK HERE

I am looking forward to helping you create a life with more LOVE, SUCCESS & HAPPINESS.
See you soon. 
Love Mheyah 

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How to take your Relationships to New Heights


How to take your Relationships to New Heights
from the desk of Mheyah Bailey

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Have you noticed how relationships change over time? We all love the romance phase because it feels so wonderful to find someone you feel really connected to, someone who gets you and who is there for you. We even go through the romance phase in a new job or any new experience.

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Falling in love is the most compelling and intoxicating experience but what is it that makes it change? We seek it and then are so disappointed when our relationships lose that sheen of romance and connection, passion and intimacy.

Then we look around and wonder where it went. The best way to get what you want in your relationships is to know where you want to end up, know what you need and want and be able to communicate to your partner. Communication is the key to keeping the love and passion alive.

What most of us need is a clear path to follow. It is not always easy to know how to make your relationships better, conflict free and full of loving connection. It is easy to lose your way with all the information out there about how to be successful in love and life.

I have spent the last several years creating a communication system that has the essential keys to lasting quality relationships personally and professionally.

I have created a Simple 5 Step System that includes the 5 main principles needed to have quality relationships and the 5 Steps for Successful Conversations.
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This 5 Step System will let you take all your relationships to new heights, full of appreciation, understanding, connection with no stress and conflict.Please allow me to introduce you to:
SUCCESSFUL COMMUNICATION MADE SIMPLE
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85% of your happiness and success in life can be determined by your communication skills.

This 7 module course highlights the 5 important principles needed to create successful relationships personally and professionally. It is a simple, easy to use, but rich in-depth course that teaches the important qualities you need to create more connection with those you love, help you manage conflict and differences and integrates them with the 5 simple Step by Step System for win-win conversations so you can get on the path to more Love, Happiness and Success.

With This Course You Will Gain:

More loving & harmonious relationships

Become more successful professionally

You will feel happier & more content

Have more confidence in your abilities

Enjoy more understanding, love & appreciation

Create a respectful passionate connection & deep friendship with your partner

Have less stress and conflict personally and professionally

In addition you will receive group coaching calls and lots of bonus resources to get you on the path to more happiness, love and success.

This is an exciting opportunity for you to take your life, relationships and professional success to a whole new level

CLICK HERE TO LEARN HOW YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE TODAY

I will be sending more information your way so keep a look out for new tips on how to take your relationships to whole new heights and success.
Love Mheyah 

If you want help with your relationships or communication coaching please connect with me and BOOK YOUR SESSION BELOW

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Looking for a way to ensure Healthy, Fulfilling & Passionate Relationships

 

We all seek loving relationships. It is human nature to want to connect with loved ones. Whether it’s from our family, friends, coworkers, or our romantic relationships, we all expect love, respect, admiration, loyalty, and some level of nurturing.

But achieving that can be more difficult than you think sometimes.
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Perhaps you’ve found yourself in several unhealthy relationships and are hesitant to start a new one based on your past experiences or the new one you are in is starting to struggle too. Or maybe you’ve watched too many movies and read too many books and are scared of the hurt that can come from a failed relationship attempt. Or maybe you’re finding it difficult to make the necessary professional connections needed to further advance your career. 

Regardless of your past fears,  Connection Point can give you the communication skills you need to ensure all of your relationships are healthy, happy and full of mutual respect.

We offer 2 in depth courses that highlight the 5 important principles needed to create rich and successful personal and business relationships, Successful Communication Made Simple and the 5 Simple Principles to Create Successful Relationships.
These courses will lead you on a path to:

  • Loving & harmonious relationships
  • Professional success
  • Personal happiness and contentment
  • Strengthened confidence in yourself
  • Understanding, love, and appreciation
  • Respect, passion, and deep friendship with your chosen partner

We all want to be loved, but sometimes we need a little help learning how to go about achieving that level of affection out of relationships in our life.

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If you find yourself nodding and thinking “This is what I’ve been missing!” then CLICK HERE to learn more about our program and how you can get started building healthy relationships today!

Need relationship help-you can book me directly

Communication is the single most important part of creating a healthy relationship. A relationship without communication is like a beautiful flower without water and sunlight, it will quickly wither and die. I don’t care if you think what you have to say is hurtful or you are afraid of expressing yourself, speak your Truth. Be kind, but speak up and be honest. It’s easy to communicate when it’s good news and happy times, but it takes a truly authentic and courageous person to communicate openly and honestly when darkness falls on a relationship.”– Jackson Kiddard, author & polymath.

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Are you there for me?


Bonus Tip of the Week-by Mheyah Bailey
Also published on MetroLiving Zine

The underlying question is: Are you there for me?

In a deeply committed love relationship, it helps you to see the best in your partner and to minimize their faults in your mind. It helps your bond to encourage them to be the best that they can be and to pursue their dreams and goals as individuals. Because you love your mate, it is important you become and remain their biggest cheerleader and fan, encouraging and supporting. It is important to show your love and appreciation in as many ways as you can. Sustaining a positive regard and respect for your partner is essential in maintaining a balanced perspective about your relationship.
When you disagree or are engaged in conflict, it is important to remain motivated to do everything that you can to settle your differences creating connection to restore harmony to your relationship.
Even when you are upset with your partner, it is essential you realize that your anger and feelings are your responsibility and your upset doesn’t mean that you don’t still love them. This will support you in knowing that your emotional upset is temporary; your love is deep-rooted, your attachment is secure and stable with a strong foundation of commitment, trust and respect.
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Dr. John Gottman says that it important to recognize the cues from your mate that are a bid for affection during a challenging time. Keeping your positive regard always in your mind will help you see when your partner is reaching out to you or you can come up with your own cue that both of you are aware of to remind each other you are on the same team, allied for your relationship no matter what.
It appears to me that the one question in most relationships is: Are you there for me?
Make a list of all the things you value, respect and admire in your loved one, so that in time of conflict and upset you will have the list to remind you.
Just in case you forget and keep a look out for those bids for connection. They can be subtle.

Love Mheyah ♥
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Successful Communication Made Simple

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This is the best course to get you on the right path for more LOVE, SUCCESS & HAPPINESS in all areas of your life.

85% of your happiness and success in life can be determined by your communication skills.

This 7 module course highlights the 5 important principles needed to create successful relationships personally and professionally. It is a simple, easy to use, but rich in-depth course that teaches the important qualities you need to create more connection with those you love, help you manage conflict and differences and integrates them with the 5 simple Step by Step System for win-win conversations so you can get on the path to more Love, Happiness and Success.

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♥ Become more successful professionally

♥ You will feel happier & more content

♥ Have more confidence in your abilities

♥ Enjoy more understanding, love & appreciation

♥ Create a respectful passionate connection & deep friendship with your partner

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Stop in the name of Love


Quick Tip on how to stop conflict 

STOP. Just stop.
stopIt takes two people to argue and create conflict so if you want your relationship to feel better, be more connected and loving if it is a personal relationship or a more collaborative and respectful working relationship, then one of you has to change the dynamic. It doesn’t matter who takes responsibility first but it only takes one person to shift the relationship in a positive direction.
You can do this. Once you are committed to a no arguing rule then you can look at what you are really wanting to argue about. We fight because we need something or a principle or value has been compromised. Once you are clear about what you are fighting for then you can express what you need in a positive way.

Quick view of a positive win win conversation:

1. Intention: What is important to you about the conversation?
2. Issue: Say what happened without blame
3. Feel: Share how are you feeling
4. Need: Say what your needs, values, principles or beliefs are.
5. Ask: Tell the other person how they can help the situation and ask if they are able and willing to help
I can guarantee you have the power to make positive shifts in all your relationships
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Let’s talk about SEX


How many times a week do you think couples should be having sex?

Well the real answer is, as many times as suits the couple. Everyone is different and as long as both partners are happy with the frequency then all is good.

Here is the thing. Sex is the highest form of communication and all that ‘conversation stuff’ is all foreplay. So let’s talk about how communication, conversations and connection ties in with having great sex.

The truth is, sex is all about communication and is our most intimate form of communicating with our partners.
"love and heart"How we connect with others comes naturally to some and not so naturally to others but is essential for building awesome relationships. We communicate and transmit information all day long; I am available or not, I am open or not, I am relaxed or not, I like you or not, I love you or not. I want to have sex or not. The absence of good communication between couples can cause many problems, pain, misunderstandings, conflict, disconnection, lack of harmony and love, and yes when this happens can mean less sex too. This is how we end up in the proverbial catch-22 of disconnection. We feel upset with our partners or they are upset with us and we disconnect emotionally and then disengage physically and we end up in the relationship spiral of doom. We need physical intimacy to feel happy and connected emotionally and we need emotional connection to have great physical intimacy.

A lot of couples don’t want to have sexual contact when they are upset and feel emotional disconnected so they go round and round getting more emotionally and physically distant and the great relationship divide has happened. It can be so discouraging and disheartening.
4855659-3d-rendering-of-a-heart-with-barbed-wire-around-itI would like to suggest that our relationships don’t need to go through this painful process. We communicate with our actions, what we say or don’t say, and we can certainly learn to communicate more effectively to increase positive connection with our partners. Love after all is an action word.

To have more love, quality connection, passion and intimacy in your life you must be more loving and this is where being able to communicate in more loving ways will elevate your relationship to levels of AWESOME-ness.
No relationship can be truly happy, fulfilling & successful without knowing how to express yourself to the important people in your life. We all want to feel valued, loved, respected, to feel special and important and I can guarantee you learning new ways to communicate will bring you more of what you want.

Relationships need safety and healthy attachment to thrive. The one question we all need to know from our partners is, “are you there for me” and when we trust that someone is there for us it builds an awesome level of intimacy and connection and yes this is the space for great sex.

If you relationship is not thriving in the way you would like and you don’t understand why not, ask yourself what you could do to improve connection with your love.
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Here is a list of ideas to get you started with reconnecting. Think of the whole day as foreplay. Love is in the Details.
I am sure you can come up with a few of your own as well.

  1. positively engage, listen, be curious
  2. be calm and non-reactive, explain what you need and want clearly
  3. be appreciative and grateful for what your partner brings to the relationship, thank them for the things they do 
  4. share common interests, time together
  5. laugh with each other
  6. be openly affectionate, look at her/him directly
  7. be transparent and trustworthy
  8. do not criticize, blame or judge
  9. put your phone away
  10. check in for 20 minutes everyday
  11. smile at each other
  12. text little things during the day ????
  13. gifts for no special reason are nice????
  14. look after yourself which means you take care of yourself, body, mind and soul
  15. grow, learn, create, be inspired
  16. be happy
  17. kiss????
  18. celebrate
  19. offer to help, support, be of value
  20. be loving, caring, kind, compassionate

As Rumi says; Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

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How to deal with other people’s Big Feelings

 

6 Ways to deal with other people’s “Big Feelings” by Mheyah Bailey

I ran out of compassion, curiousity and courage the other day. All the important relationship principles were here in my heart and head, and then in a flash they were gone and I mean gone.
I am again reminded of how hard it is to stay grounded when someone else is yelling, upset and angry. I think I should qualify that. Anyone can yell and it doesn’t affect me, however if someone I love and care about yells and is upset, that is a completely different story.

I have a tendency to fall into complete trauma when anyone yells at me and appears to be angry with me. I interpret angry loud communication, which in our family we call Big Feelings, as very threatening to the relationship, could possible mean the relationship is over, I have been bad in some way and I am not loved. It hits me in my most vulnerable place of fear of losing love, not being good enough or not being loveable.
That is my old story and sometimes my history really jumps up and bites me, as my brain seems to have a mind of it’s own and just goes off into this weird place of threat and fear. I felt blindsided by my vulnerable self and couldn’t hang onto my adult, mature self. Counselors are human after all.
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Well the truth is that our brains actually do that. If anyone has been the recipient of trauma or abuse then the trauma is most likely hardwired into the brain. That is essentially what PTSD is and sometimes when I am surprised by what I perceive as an attack I melt down just like I would have as a child in the face of abandonment and rejection.
I know in my logical brain that isn’t true but in the heat of the moment I have to talk my way into a calmer more rational place. So how does one self soothe during relationship conflict, stress, trauma or drama? I believe it is much the same for a lot of people and is how arguments start because both parties feel they must defend themselves from attack. The trick is to self soothe so you don’t fall into defensiveness and attack back.

It is particularly damaging to live with negative emotions such as contempt, judgment and anger and is up to both parties to learn to be responsible for their reactions and responses.

This article however is for you, while dealing with an upset person. 

Here are 6 actions you can do to help yourself when someone else is really upset.

  1. Cry and run away. Just kidding, that was my 6 year old talking
  1. Set a Boundary and take a time out- hold up the hand and say I need time out and I will talk to you when you stop raising your voice and I feel calm.
    No one deserves to be yelled at and you don’t need to take responsibility for someone else’s feelings. It is their responsibility to learn to share their feelings in a positive and healthy way. Your part is to set a boundary about what kind of treatment you will accept. The person with the Big Feelings is most likely not able to soothe themselves yet, so it is up to you to create the space for everyone to return to calm. It doesn’t mean the issue has gone away, it just means both parties can return to the conversation and find resolution. A time out is essential so that you have the time to self soothe, calm down, become conscious of your own feelings, needs and values and return to a place of commitment, curiousity, compassion and courage. Remind yourself ‘I am not responsible for anyone else’s feelings’
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  2. Don’t take it personally As you are taking your time out remember and repeat ‘this isn’t about me’ ‘this isn’t about me’  ‘this isn’t about me’
    Someone who is upset, angry and expressing themselves loudly is most likely feeling hurt, in pain and feeling threatened in some way themselves, so it is vital to not make up any stories about what it all means and remember that it says more about them than it does about you and repeat ‘I am not responsible for anyone else’s feelings’

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  3. Breathe deeply, concentrate on breathing from your stomach and as the old saying goes count to 10 or maybe even 100. We forget to breath and when we are faced with conflict, stress or trauma we start to breath very shallow which deprives the brain and organs of much need oxygen. If you notice you are breathing in your upper chest, stand against a wall and breath through your lower abdomen. It will increase oxygen and automatically relieve stress and repeat ‘I am not responsible for someone else’s feelings’Keep Calm
  4. See a counselor or coach to work through your brain wiring, communication skills, boundary setting and other roadblocks to contentment and successful relationships.
    Some counselors and coaches including myself offer crisis management if you need to connect with someone for support either through email or phone calls. I have found it can be very beneficial to support my clients through conflict in the moment rather than wait until the event is over. It can help uncover those hidden core tapes that are usually the cause of our reactions.
    There are many techniques to achieve calm in the face of stress through meditation, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitizing Reprocessing) hypnosis, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) just to name a few and repeat ‘ I am not responsible for some else’s feelings’DSC_2976
  5. Meditate for 10 to 30 minutes. There are many options out there for meditating and is probably the most valuable tool for soothing oneself and changing the state of your brain from stress to calm. There are abundant resources for guided meditations or meditating on your own. Either way meditating is the best solution for taking a step back, self soothe and reminding yourself ‘you are not responsible for anyone else’s feelings’
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  6. Remind yourself what you are responsible for. You are only responsible to stay responsibly connected. What does that mean? Well I can tell you what it doesn’t mean first. It doesn’t mean, that you accept abuse, disrespect, contempt, judgment, accusations, blame, criticism, name calling etc.
    What it does mean is that you recognize and can discern that someone is just upset and lost their ‘stuff’ You know that you trust them and yourself to remain in the relationship until it is resolved, that you are responsible for your own reactions, responses and feelings and have learned communication skills that creates connection rather than disconnection and that you really, really get, that your are not responsible for some else’s feelings but you are responsible for responding with awareness of yourself, compassion, curiousity, love, courage and are committed to collaborating to resolve the issue.
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