Another slam dunk by my friend Mastin Kipp of The Daily Love
What he writes is so true. We all have a right to our feelings, our emotions, our own experience and to responsibly share this with others makes us real & authentic, creating deeper and more intimate relationships with everyone.
Great article, happy reading. Let me know how you feel 😉
Our emotions are not a burden, neither to us nor to the people in our lives.
Our emotions are real and they are valid. If we are to be happy, we must begin to step into not only loving our emotions, but also finding healthy ways to express them.
We can’t build intimacy with anyone in our life without the ability to express our emotions and feel safe doing so.
Many people have written in to WhatImGoingThru@TheDailyLove.com and shared how they feel guilty for expressing their emotions, even though they feel their life is a blessing. They feel that their emotions are a burden and shouldn’t be expressed unless they are totally 100% positive.
But you see, anyone who only wants us to express “positive” emotions (including ourselves) doesn’t have true unconditional love for us. Rather, they have a conditional kind of love that can only handle the “good”. This is probably for good reason, namely because everyone is going through something and many folks don’t want even MORE negativity in their life.
However, for us to really love each other we must become willing to accept all parts of ourselves and others – not just the positive. Unconditional love means full acceptance of someone (including ourselves) exactly where they are. This is not a license to be a push over, or to be a negative Nancy and just complain all the time. We must also take responsibility for our emotions and our life circumstance and step into an empowered perspective of all things.
But, at the same time, if we wish to experience love in our relationships, we must also step into the courage to be able to share what we are feeling without guilt, shame or feeling as if we are burdening ourselves and others. It is not through the negation of our emotions that we come closer together, but through the loving exposure of our emotions that we build trust and intimacy.
We all deeply desire to be seen and one of the best ways to feel seen is to be able to share about what we’re going through and how we are feeling and know that we aren’t going to be judged, condemned or attacked for our expression.
So today, let’s set the following intentions:
1. To be more open and accepting to the people in our lives and to want to generally know how they are feeling and what they are going through. Let us drop the judgment and simply just be present to whatever they are feeling. When we say, “How was your day” or “How are you?” let’s mean it and be present.
2. Let us also be present and have respect for OUR emotions. Let us step into radical acceptance of how we are feeling and learn from our emotions rather than suppress them. Let us be willing to become vulnerable and expose ourselves and if we find certain people in our lives are not willing to accept us as we are and where we are, let us reconsider their role in our lives. Let us go where the love is and let ourselves be seen by people who have the capacity to see us.
So, can you open up a little today, to your emotions and the emotions of those you love? Let us not judge, but simply be a loving presence for each other.
How does that feel?